Engage 10: Improving Your Life Tempo
23 hours ago
Good habits for life
I am a 54 year old (or young) woman who has been dealing with weight issues my whole life.
I think I’ve tried every method of losing weight at least twice, from Nutrisystem and Jenny Craig to medically supervised fasting for months.
I keep going back to Weight Watchers, which really is the only one that works long-term for me. The program does work if I stay with it, which is the catch.
Sugar and its companion sweeteners are addictive; so are government subsidies. Individual Americans should break the sweets habit and demand their government wean corn farmers off the government dole.
The FDIC wants banks to stand on their own two feet, but withdrawing insurance on big checking accounts won't be popular.
Well, the accoutrements are important. I took up tennis for the same reason I took up horseback riding—part of it is about the habit. Habit is an old word, like a riding habit or a tennis habit. Part of the intrigue was to go to Vuitton and get the tennis racket and the tennis bag, the box for the bottle of water. I don’t do anything unless I think about my habit.
A powerful personal growth tool is the 30-day trial. This is a concept I borrowed from the shareware industry, where you can download a trial version of a piece of software and try it out risk-free for 30 days before you’re required to buy the full version.Celestine prefers 21 days:
1. 21 days is what it takes to fully break/form a new habit 2. A 21-day trial is more efficient than a 30-day trialDragos Roua thinks 15 days is enough and he has developed a day-by-day system to prove it.
Argue for your limitations and sure enough, they're yours...2. Emotions
95 percent of human behavior is controlled by the unconscious mindThe unconscious mind is a term invented by the 18th century German romantic philosopher Ser Christopher Riegel and later introduced into English by the poet and essayist Samuel Taylor Coleridge. The unconscious mind might be defined as that part of the mind which gives rise to a collection of mental phenomena that manifest in a person's mind but which the person is not aware of at the time of their occurrence.
A few key players have become so entrenched on the Web and creatures of habit like me just make them more dominant.This blogger thought that Google was a bad habit and tried to break free of his habit:
So … nothing for the last week or so. No fantastic revelations about missing tools, no desperate struggle to find new ways of doing things. In fact, if Google dropped off the face of the Earth tomorrow it would take me less than a week to move on completely.Bing needs to overcome an entrenched habit. Is Microsoft using standard habit breaking methods on Goggle users?
A nail is driven out by another nail. Habit is overcome by habit.
We are working each day to completely remake our lives, bit by bit. We are replacing unhealthy habits with healthy ones.The important knowledge that habit is overcome by habit has been around for 500 years and probably more. It is repeated today as well:
The way to stop a habit is by not stopping it cold turkey but by substituting a new habit. The new habit is a beneficial one and good for you. It could be good for you physically, mentally, or emotionally. It is the course of action, in an ideal world, you would like to take but are are struggling to do it.
A new habit can take up to 30 days of doing it to become established. The first six days of the new habit is hard to follow, the six days after that a little easier, going six days forward again it becomes easier still. As the habit is performed every day it does get easier and better.If so much is known about the mechanics of forming and removing habits how come we still have bad habits? How come removing a bad habit is not as simple as learning to drive a car? And as free of prejudice?
Write down one very simple activity that you agree to do every day. Example: write on a piece of paper "Read this text." That's a simple commitment.
For the next few days, make sure to pick up that piece of paper, read and follow what it says.
Start adding simple activities that you'd like to do every day. One of the things that I wrote down initially was "Keep work desk clean". I used to clean my desk every 6 months or so. Always felt guilty about not doing often enough, but could never convince myself to do it - it seemed like too much work.
Then one day I read somewhere that "the state of your immediate surroundings affects your ability to focus and be productive" That same day, "Clean desk" went on my "daily ritual" piece of paper. After doing it for a while, I no longer have to think about cleaning my desk or argue with myself about whether or not I really need to dump those unnecessary papers or carry the coffee mugs to the kitchen. You've trained yourself to look at it every day - now you can be reasonably sure that you won't be forgetting to do stuff that's written on it.If you make it easy breaking a habit is not difficult at all!
Telling someone directly to change a habit never works. You cannot use persuasion on someone --or yourself-- to change a habit. Habit is action and action always wins against reason:
Simple information, reasoning, and appeal to fear of negative consequences are not enough to dissuade a high sensation seeker from trying some risky behavior that promises an intense reward. Once established a habit that provides reward is difficult to extinguish because of the negative emotional and physical state produced by withdrawal of the reward.
If you are to make some behavior off-limits and therefore remove the reward, then you have to replace it with another rewarding behavior.
Well, you may think you are, but the truth of that matter is that you cannot break or change a habit. You can, however, create new, better and even stronger habits. And while you may think that the old habits are forever gone, they are simply hiding out. At some point in time, one or more will get triggered.
Most of our life is lived by habits. Habits run on their own with "minimum effort."
Habits are not good or bad, they are just ways of handling repetitive tasks that would otherwise require a lot of energy.
The master habit of creating/breaking your habits can be quite an asset
All these new activities are made by some repetitive tasks, a set of moves you have to do daily in order to get some positive results
Name your habit
Write everything you need to perform in order to create that habit.
In the implementation phase do not editorialize. Break the doing from the analyzing.
Creating a habit is largely a matter of defining it right first and then implementing it.
We are our habits -Aristotle